Cherry-pick: xinput1_3: Do not enumerate "disabled" controllers.

[Arcitec]

Proton has a gamepad bug that I just fixed in Wine. Since Proton is game focused, it's pretty important to get it into Proton too, so that we'll have a world where people can disable controllers without worrying whether they're on Wine or Proton:

https://gitlab.winehq.org/wine/wine/-/merge_requests/12160

[Arcitec]

@kisak-valve Here's the commit that landed in wine-master:

https://gitlab.winehq.org/wine/wine/-/commit/d8b9b7c087033b14437ae41d52f93e0131742838